Take Me Home, Country Roads by John Denver except it’s playing from your neighbor’s radio that you can hear from your back porch, which you sit out on to relax in spite of the loud buzzing from the lightbulb and the hoards of moths that flock to it on summer evenings like this.
This is just literally what it’s like to sit on my porch
This is just my version of a life crash course. All of what follows this blurb, is stuff that I use daily, and is actually posted up next to my bed. Life can be hard sometimes, even more so if you have other things impacting it or you. (For me, this includes things like severe depression and anxiety, family -or lack there of- issues, etc.) I know how difficult it can be, just trying to function, let alone be productive or ‘happy’. This is what I’ve found helpful, so I wanted to share it so that it might help another person feel at least a tiny bit better. — Good Morning!
Put on some music
Drink a glass or two of water
Take any and all vitamins or medications as directed
Brush your teeth
Wash your face
Brush your hair
Feed/take care of any dependents (i.e. pets)
Drink a glass of tea (or juice/coffee, whatever you prefer)
Stretch
Check if you have school or work; if so, prepare accordingly
Now check if you have any other plans/appointments/commitments
Check the mail
Put away 20 things in your room
Charge your phone
Make sure you make/eat something
Check your phone and reply if you need/want to
Through The Day
Put away another 15 things in your room
Talk to at least one person, whether it be online, on the phone, via text, on skype, in person, etc.
Only do your hair/makeup if you need to, don’t feel obligated
Try to go out and take a walk; even if it’s just around the block
Eat something
If any dishes are in your room, make sure they make it into the kitchen sink
Wash those dishes; it’s annoying to do, but it’s better to only have to do one or two dishes at a time then have an entire sink full.
Wipe off the kitchen counters if they need it
Drink at least 5-6 more glasses of water throughout the day
Do something you enjoy for at least 30 minutes; even on a busy day, find the time to do it. You’ll be glad you did.
Follow through on any prior commitments you had, and try to be a few minutes early if possible. It’ll save you some worrying along the way.
Try and stay positive about things if you can. I know it’s had, and it’s okay if you can’t, but there’s got to be at least one good thing that you can look to if you search hard enough. I promise, it’s somewhere in there.
Goodnight…
Take any/all makeup off
Shower or have a bath
Brush your teeth
Brush your hair
Drink another glass of water
Put away 5 things in your room
Think about something that made you smile today
Envision the person you want to become
Try to get at least 7 hours of sleep if you can
Through The Week
Sweep/vacuum the house twice; more if need be
Take out the trash when it gets full
Do a weekly fridge check to make sure everything in there is still good
Go grocery shopping as needed
Do some laundry
If you have a pet, make sure you’re checking it’s litter/bedding/ect. and cleaning/changing accordingly
Clean the bathroom; this means wipe down the counter, the sink, clean the toilet, clear empty bottles and such out of the shower, pick up any clothes you may have left in there, etc.
Tidy the living room if it’s needed
Wipe down the stove top
If you have any extra money, try and budget it/set it aside
Side Notes
Save any and all pay stubs if you get any
Put things away as soon as you get them
Find a creative outlet; writing, drawing, dance, painting, reading, anything.
Not every person is worth the drama they bring into your life, pick and choose accordingly. (P.s. Yes, you can pick and choose. You are not obligated to be friends with anyone you don’t want to be friends with. Even if it seems like you are desperate to have just anyone around, don’t let that ‘anyone’ be someone who can cause more harm than good in your life. Trust me on this.)
Never say something about someone unless your willing to have them hear it, because you never know who’s lips might be loose (Unless it’s someone you truly trust.)
Family is a concept/asset the is NOT required in order for you to be successful, functional, or happy.
Never be ashamed of who you are, what you want, what you like, or who you love. No one should have that kind of control over how you feel. Don’t let them. (Besides, it’s none of their damn business anyway.)
Don’t let anyone guilt you; And if they’re trying to? Call them the fuck out. That shit is not okay. You’re already dealing with your own shit and don’t need that.
It’s okay to not be okay
Make sure you see a doctor when you think you need to, and for your regular check ups
If you need help, please don’t be afraid to ask for it. I promise you, you’ll be glad you did in the end
Find something that makes you happy, and pursue it
You are not the words that have been said to or about you
So that’s about everything. I may add to this as I add to my own list, but for now, here it is. I really hope this helps anyone who reads it. If you ever need support, or have a question, or need advice, or anything, please feel free to contact me.
